Tips For Personal Growth/Success

1-Put god first: Whatever plans we make, he is the one who approves or disapproves.

2- Making mistakes: Accept the fact that it is okay to make mistakes. There is a lesson in every error.

3- Focus: Focus on the solution, not the problem. Mistakes are inevitable; what makes a huge difference is how you handle a situation.

4- Your attitude: Develop an attitude of gratitude: prove that you appreciate what you have. Blessings will continue to flow in your direction.

5- Your past: Leave the past behind you; it merely prepares you for a new level. Drop the past and embrace a future of opportunity.

6- Invest in yourself: Take care of yourself. (Your diet, exercise, and work toward achieving your goals) If you can’t love yourself, why should others love you?

7-Self control: Do not allow emotions to ruin your future. Some somethings are just out of our control.

8- People’s opinion: Do not let people’s opinions of you determine your future. Suppose you have the desire to do something, focus, and begin your journey.

9- Socialize: We need people in our lives. Hang around your role models. Your friends tell a lot about you choose wisely.

10-Timing: there is nothing called perfect timing; during our difficult times, he carries us.

11-Give: You get out of life what you give

12- Familiarity: Get out of your comfort zone. If you continue to do the same thing daily, you will get the same results. If you are looking for a change, you should also change your routine.

IT IS OK TO LET PEOPLE GO!

A little boy had picked from their kitchen garden a few cherries. He excitedly ran to his mother with so much joy and a banana smile across his innocent face. On seeing him, his mother was curious as to what would make her little boy that excited. Holding the boy on her lap, she realized that it was the cherries, but there was a problem; they were unripe, and based on her experience, the cherries were likely to be sour. She tried taking them away from the boy, but it was such a difficult task; even when she eventually succeeded, the boy burst into uncontrollable tears, not knowing that she had his best interest at heart. Mother rose and went into the kitchen where she got the little boy ripe and cherries that enjoyed eating forgetting, the agony, and the pain he previously went through on losing out on the cherries he had earlier picked.

In life, goodbyes are the hardest, yet at times, more essential in our lives. Most times, we tend to look at them from a negative perspective. As if we are losing something or someone. In most cases, if we have lost someone to death, we are sure that we will never see that person again, at least not on this earth. In relationship cases, it could be either way; we may lose someone, miss their friendship, and not be in their comfort zone for a while; however, on the other side, it could open the doors of opportunity. Opportunity to usher in new life, new growth, meet new people, accomplish stalled goals, and tick the to-do on your bucket list.

Like the mother to the little boy, we get so excited when we meet new friends who end up being part of our lives at a time in life relationships. We run to God, our father, and just like the little boy’s mother, He tries to caution us on some of the relationships we choose.

In Isaiah 46:10 (New International Version), “I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.” This, in itself, should be the main reason why we should always trust in God in all our relationships since He knows our end from the beginning. Further-more in Jeremiah 1:5 (NIV); “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you before you were born, I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” We assure that nothing is new to him, and his advice for us is always positive. Our future is in his hands because he knows us. When he directs, it is time for us to say goodbye to someone, a career, a job, or even to leave a place; we have to employ the Abrahamic type of faith; go without looking back and trusting no-one but God.

There are times when we may not get the closure of saying actual good goodbye, but it may come automatically by drifting apart or even silence. It signifies the end of a season and the ushering in of a new one. It also means that the mandate of that particular person in our life has come to an end. When God sends an angel to take you through a season, they move on to the next assignment once their purpose ends. The scripture says in Ecclesiastes 3:1- 8 (NIV), “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.”

One thing that gives me the courage to let go of things, opportunities, or people is that God opens another when one door closes. When God wants to move you from one glory to the next, you will have to shed the weight of your past level for Him to propel you to the next one. The more you hold on to your comfort zone, then you deny yourself the opportunity to soar to more significant, higher heights.

So when you feel that you will lose a friendship or are unsure of what will happen next, allow God to lead you; he is the shepherd and you the sheep. Remember, He says in the book of Joshua 1:9 (NIV), “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged; for the LORD, your God will be with you wherever you go.”

With this, I can confidently tell you; it is OK to LET IT GO!

Are you blocking your blessings?

Countless times we have found ourselves questioning the level of blessings in our lives. At the back of our minds, we presumably comfort ourselves in the thought of “I have done everything by the books. Why am I not being blessed?” Not realizing that there is more to the blessing than just doing the right thing. More to it than just what we see with our naked eyes. After all, it is the spirit that informs the natural. So the question we may need to ask ourselves is, what exactly should we do to receive the fullness of God’s blessings in our lives?

The first step is to exercise faith. At times, it gets so hard to focus on the goal a midst life turbulence. You see, we all begin where Peter began, taking a big step of faith and getting into the waters, looking to Jesus. The moment he lost focus and looked aside, he began to sink where he previously walked.

Matthew 14:29-31: “Come,” He (Jesus) said. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on water, and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, began to sink and cried out, “Lord, save me!” Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”

We have all had such moments in life where we leap big only to lose sight when almost reaching the goal. We need to keep focusing on the ultimate prize and keep holding on to the faith.

Did you know that your lack of forgiveness can hinder your blessing? A story told in Matthew 18 of a servant whose master forgave all his debt. Forgiveness automatically earned him the benefit of freedom from prison and debt. The servant, on the other hand, did not extend the same. As a result of this, his blessing of freedom earned him some jail-time, shame, and regret.

Matthew 18:32-35: “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ His master’s anger handed him over to the jailers to torture until he should pay back all he owed. “This is how our Heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”

When we walk in forgiveness, we unlock our blessings and catapult ourselves into the blessings of the next realm. Unlocking our faith is also based on how much you forgive and enables you to reach the blessings you desire.

Mark 11:22-25: And Jesus answered them, “Have faith in God. Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass. Therefore, I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”

Not leaving your past in the past is one of the things that will hinder your blessings. There is a saying that life inspired people to learn from the past but do not live there. Let bygone be bygone, they are necessary to mold us into being our best.

Philippians 3:13-14: Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before 14. I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

Isaiah 43:18-19: “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing something new! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. The past also clouds our vision from seeing new and better things in our future. I guess that is why the rear-view mirror in a car is smaller than the windscreen. Unlocking the future and its blessings is all dependent on you put your past behind you.

Isaiah 43:18-19: “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing something new! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

Selfishness is yet another hindrance to your blessings. Since the main principle in the Kingdom of God is based on giving, it would not hold water if you claim to be of the kingdom but do not do the things of the kingdom; giving.

2nd Corinthians 9:7: Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.

In giving to receive a blessing, you have to provide cheerfully with a pure heart.

Luke 6: 38: Give and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you

We serve a big God who is well able to supply our needs according to His riches in Glory. However, it is for us to take the initiative and unlock these blessings by getting rid of all the hindrances to our blessings and preparing ourselves accordingly for the abundance of blessings that awaits us ahead.