Phew! The complexity of this topic is like holding a butterfly with your hands placed on your back. If you ask someone if the butterfly is alive or dead and they say alive, you can squeeze it to death. If they say it is gone, you can release it and let it fly.
It is a parents’ responsibility to take care of their children in an ideal situation. However, the question arises, up to what age? Is letting the child grow and ushering them into adulthood considered cruelty? Let us learn from an eagle. When the eaglets come of age, they are pushed out of the nest. Not out of lack of love but to propel the young one to independence.
The core obligations of children are to respect and care for their aging parents. The divide as to how far is too far in supporting your parents depends on personal attachment, moral responsibility, and conscience. I am the type that would do whatever is necessary to see my parents comfortable by providing the bare minimum of food, shelter, and medical care. Once in a while, I will throw in a vacation. Bearing this in mind, they had their life plans before they had me. I consider myself part of the plan but not their ultimate goal of life. In this regard, some opportunities will arise where I keep off their business,’ and there are others where I will come in. I enjoy giving legal counsel, identifying the best doctors for them, helping them with their smartphones and computers, driving them on long drives, or facilitating them. Why do I do so? Because mine is to make their last days on earth comfortable and less stressful. We, the youngsters, must extend the same level of kindness we would want to be extended to our parents. Gone are the days when we squander our money with friends as our parents languish in lack and poverty at home. Selflessness does not have to be financial or material based. Let us show appreciation by spending time with them and create unforgettable memories.
On the other hand, parents need to be grateful, not for material things but because their children succeed and have a decent society position. I have witnessed parents who demand so much of their children to a point where they feel inadequate. Young women and men alike end up engaging in illicit sex, crime, and drug abuse to satisfy their parents’ demands to the detriment of their future. They live in bitterness as they hustle to ensure they maintain a societal standard that the parents expect to brag on their children’s successes. It is essential to realize there is no better gift a parent can give his children than positive exposure and paint a bright future. Some parents fail to fulfill their purpose in life and desperately try to live through their children’s lives. Forcing them to buy them the car or house they never had. Society needs to realize miserable parents can make unhappy children. As parents receive the respect, they deserve in the words of Abraham Lincoln, “All that I am and all that I will ever be, I owe to my mother.” Would your children say this about you as a parent?