IT IS OK TO LET PEOPLE GO!

A little boy had picked from their kitchen garden a few cherries. He excitedly ran to his mother with so much joy and a banana smile across his innocent face. On seeing him, his mother was curious as to what would make her little boy that excited. Holding the boy on her lap, she realized that it was the cherries, but there was a problem; they were unripe, and based on her experience, the cherries were likely to be sour. She tried taking them away from the boy, but it was such a difficult task; even when she eventually succeeded, the boy burst into uncontrollable tears, not knowing that she had his best interest at heart. Mother rose and went into the kitchen where she got the little boy ripe and cherries that enjoyed eating forgetting, the agony, and the pain he previously went through on losing out on the cherries he had earlier picked.

In life, goodbyes are the hardest, yet at times, more essential in our lives. Most times, we tend to look at them from a negative perspective. As if we are losing something or someone. In most cases, if we have lost someone to death, we are sure that we will never see that person again, at least not on this earth. In relationship cases, it could be either way; we may lose someone, miss their friendship, and not be in their comfort zone for a while; however, on the other side, it could open the doors of opportunity. Opportunity to usher in new life, new growth, meet new people, accomplish stalled goals, and tick the to-do on your bucket list.

Like the mother to the little boy, we get so excited when we meet new friends who end up being part of our lives at a time in life relationships. We run to God, our father, and just like the little boy’s mother, He tries to caution us on some of the relationships we choose.

In Isaiah 46:10 (New International Version), “I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.” This, in itself, should be the main reason why we should always trust in God in all our relationships since He knows our end from the beginning. Further-more in Jeremiah 1:5 (NIV); “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you before you were born, I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” We assure that nothing is new to him, and his advice for us is always positive. Our future is in his hands because he knows us. When he directs, it is time for us to say goodbye to someone, a career, a job, or even to leave a place; we have to employ the Abrahamic type of faith; go without looking back and trusting no-one but God.

There are times when we may not get the closure of saying actual good goodbye, but it may come automatically by drifting apart or even silence. It signifies the end of a season and the ushering in of a new one. It also means that the mandate of that particular person in our life has come to an end. When God sends an angel to take you through a season, they move on to the next assignment once their purpose ends. The scripture says in Ecclesiastes 3:1- 8 (NIV), “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.”

One thing that gives me the courage to let go of things, opportunities, or people is that God opens another when one door closes. When God wants to move you from one glory to the next, you will have to shed the weight of your past level for Him to propel you to the next one. The more you hold on to your comfort zone, then you deny yourself the opportunity to soar to more significant, higher heights.

So when you feel that you will lose a friendship or are unsure of what will happen next, allow God to lead you; he is the shepherd and you the sheep. Remember, He says in the book of Joshua 1:9 (NIV), “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged; for the LORD, your God will be with you wherever you go.”

With this, I can confidently tell you; it is OK to LET IT GO!

PERSONAL GROWTH; WHAT IT ENTAILS!

There are times in life you may feel like you are unwanted or unloved? Well, I have personally had this feeling one time too many. It is not a good feeling, and we all have had such an experience one time or another. Things will happen; what is essential is how you deal with situations. How do I overcome these feelings whenever they want to spoil my day?

Understanding yourself is the beginning of life wisdom. Many are times when we succumb to these feelings because of not understanding yourself and not knowing your self-worth. When you know who you are and your self-worth, nothing and no one can bring you down. How do you understand your self-worth? One of the simple ways I do is to take personal time and grow yourself. When you take time with yourself, you get to understand who you are and your uniqueness. Self-knowledge includes what you say about yourself. Challenge your inner voice. Always say good things about yourself as many times as you can. You have the power to change and influence the events and circumstances of your life with the words you speak. Once you do, you have great self-esteem and self-confidence. You can stand out in the crowd.

Another way to grow your self-worth is to surround yourself with positive people. The saying is, iron sharpens iron, so if you are not hanging out with iron, then you should question yourself. Precisely how do you identify the right crowd to socialize? It would be best if you hung out with people who do not always see the dark side of life but rather, those that find one reason why an idea must work. The type that learns from the past but does not live in it. They live in the present but don’t accommodate it. Chose your friends wisely; they can influence your future.

If you hang out with a crowd that always sees the dark side of life and the difficulty in every project, you are in big trouble. More so, if they are the type that never takes risks and are secure in their comfort zone, you should run. Such people will infect you with their negativity, and sooner than you know it, you will join the army of failures.

Most importantly, celebrate your achievements. It will not only help us appreciate ourselves but also provide fuel and morale to achieve more. If there is no one to celebrate you, by all means, look at yourself in the mirror and part your own back. Be it making your bed, doing the dishes, graduating from that online course, or even sealing a lucrative deal; celebrate. Once you learn to celebrate your achievements, you will realize your confidence level also grows. You end up doing more and achieving more in the long run.

As you embark on the journey of personal growth, begin with these simple tips and let me know in the comment section how it goes for you.

Brian Tracy’s Training

A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. The journey of personal transformation starts with the realization that it is challenging to walk successfully on the uncharted frontiers of life without having a source of inspiration. Having an experience is one thing, living your life to the fullest is another. Sometimes we cannot understand the what’s’ and the how’s’ of making life successful. The guidance we get from life’s “guru” essentially keeps us going.

One such “guru” is Brian Tracy; he transforms my life. Whether you decide to follow him on YouTube, ready one of his books, or take one of his courses, you will not regret it. His programs will give you a vote of confidence, boasting you from one level to another. If you lack confidence but have a little desire to be a better person, it is certainly possible if you believe. His programs will give you that thirst to go after your dreams. No matter what’s your profession, he will transform you.

Brian Tracy’s program can change individuals from one level to another. Knowledge is something no one can take away from you. No one can erase what you have learned, invest in yourself and your future. Learn something new today.

Some benefits from his programs;

A higher level of personal awareness – Everything you require is inside of you, sometimes we just need to be reassured

Stop being a constant procrastinator – No time will ever be perfect, just do it now.

Being more organized with work – Simple things like a to-do list can go a long way.

Completing tasks – If you start something finish then move on to something else

Time management- It is very easy to get distracted in this busy world. Time management is crucial if you want to stay on track.

Transforming from liability status to being an asset – Making you more valuable

The key to success is to take action! Check out Brian Tracy and what he has to offer you. Do not be a couch potato; invest in yourself check out his programs. Stop worrying about why it has not happened for you. Do not go around in circles expecting a different result. Try something new; there is nothing wrong with investing in yourself. We do so much for others. Let us take care of our selves. Do something different today, anticipating a difference. Get a Role model like Brain Tracy and be the best you possible.

Here is a shortcut to success, learn from the mistakes of others. You are reaching a higher level from the inspiration and guidance of those who have gone before us. Those who have tried and tested life techniques can help us become better and achieve our best. Remember You Only Live Once. Live well. Do not be left behind; take action today!

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Vote for technology – Growth

Today technology is no longer wanted; it is an actual NEEDED. Like food, clothing, and shelter, it is detrimental to anyone not having the technological know-how to run their day to day activities. In the past, some parts of the world was reserved for the chosen few; the elite. It is now a do or die affair. A scramble for space in the technological niche will make or break an individual.

The smartphone, Wow! This invention took the world by storm. It consolidated different parts of daily life into one. We no longer have wall clocks, watches, newspapers, books, calendars, radio, calculators, and letters sending via post box; all these are in one gadget. With a smartphone, you can now work from home, attend meetings, learn languages, and manage tasks. Traveling is easy using transport and logistics apps to book for flights and taxi services via our phones. Lifestyle apps that offer recipes, movies, hair care, farming tips, and interior design, not to mention online shopping and e-commerce, are also available on the smartphone. A smartphone is a go-to gadget that makes life easy and trendy.

When I saw my first computer, I was elated. Today I know, the speed at which it was operating was discouraging. Fast-forward NOW, computers are increasingly smaller and faster hence portable and, most importantly, personal. The advantage is, you can now work virtually everywhere with or without fiber optic cables; as long as you have a mobile service provider, you can access all you need by hot-spotting or tethering your laptop to your smartphone. Almost every school now has computer classes, with at least one member of the student’s immediate or extended family, own a computer.

In today’s world, most computers have taken the shape of tablets, which are small enough to fit in hand but large enough to present text in a decent size. They also do not require a keyboard or a mouse for operation. Not only are they much cheaper than laptops and PCs, but they are also very efficient. Tablet apps use touch screen effects and deliver an experience that can otherwise not be available on a computer. The choice of tablets in 2020 depends on the operating system, either Android or IOS, and the buyer budget. One assurance I can give is whatever budget you have; rest assured will be sorted.

It wouldn’t be worth mentioning technological evolution without saying social media. Instagram, Facebook, Snapshot, and Tik tok are all anchored on smart gadgets. The quality of videos and pictures are rooted in the megapixels, filters, and editing tools available. It is a symbiotic relationship for all smart devices in that while you can do all you possibly can with a smartphone or tablet, you cannot do it all. You will require either a desktop computer or laptop to put in the finer details, even with the presence of photo or video editing filters.

How about the evolution of video conferencing, with applications like Zoom, Google meet, Microsoft team for video and audio calls? School records, religious activities, organizational meetings, medical conferences are now running on a virtual platform. While there are critics that technology is harmful, I dare say it is doing more good than harm in this day and age. There are endless possibilities to explore when it comes to technology today and beyond; however much you can resist it, you cannot resist an idea whose time has come. Do not be left behind, join the technology bandwagon, and vote for technology.

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Are men missing the corona point?

When Covid-19 hit the globe, most people, especially men, did not take it seriously enough to keep the virus under control. No washing of hands, wearing masks, or even social distancing. I guess we are learning from our mistakes. No wonder they accounted for 58% of Corona deaths world-wide. As the virus unfolds, we continue to adapt because we must live with this thing, creating a new normal.

As I continue to adapt, it plagues my mind how some people behave. While some of us are paranoid and being overly cautious, others are living carefree lives. It hurts when seeing some sacrificing so much while others do not care, and some come up with a million reasons for the virus being a hoax. Their relaxed behavior puts all of us at risk.

Even knowing that it’s a contact spread virus, this seems to be at the back of some men’s minds when they are socializing. They forget about six feet apart and personal space. They still want to have their cake and eat it. Curfew restrictions mean there is limited time to engage in “illicit” affairs; hence, my question is whether men are cheating more or less during COVID-19? Second question; if they are, are they take the necessary precautions to control this virus?

Sometimes we need to stop playing games and be serious. Let us look at the number of deaths. Isn’t that enough reason to be calm until we find a vaccine? Let’s forget how we did things and move with time for a better tomorrow. Our decisions today will determine the number of lives spared. While men are trying to find ways to cope with the virus’s invasion, wildlife seems to be thriving.

Several people have lost jobs, and some are experiencing pay cuts. For unemployed people with a mortgage, bills, and children, life just got harder. I am left to wonder; what sacrifices will be made to pay those bills or to care for their children? Will it cause divisions, abuse, and all the negative ills? Or will they see this pandemic as an opportunity to grow themselves, propelling themselves to financial independence? Your life matters invest in yourself.

The law of demand and supply dictate that in a market when the supply is surplus and the demand low, the price ceiling is low. Therefore, many opportunistic men take advantage of the fact that many ladies are “needy” and opportunities to explore other avenues are minimal. While the situation on the ground dictates that it could only be a transaction, psychology dictates ladies tend to cling to men after they have been intimate.

I think it is time men take a back seat and think of the impact of their decisions. What will happen if they bring the disease home to their loved ones? Other than Corona, are they exposing their spouses and family at large to other diseases due to multiple partners? If they were to be empathetic, I would love for them to put their desires aside and focus not on their rendezvous’ but their families.

If your life matters be prepared to beat this virus. 

Appreciate me while i am alive/ If tomorrow never comes

Appreciate me while I am still alive! Yes, I said it. I will not be ashamed nor mince my words when saying this. Life is a gift; many times, we take it for granted. We do not appreciate those we claim to love only to have a rude awakening when they suddenly depart from our lives. We are then left with no choice than to live with the “could have” and “I should have” thoughts of guilt.

The Coronavirus is teaching me not to take time and people for granted. We have been previously living a carefree and procrastinating life, where everything is pushed to the next day. Not prioritizing, putting value in material things rather than investing in people. Our most valuable gifts are free of charge. The reset button has been pushed; the awakening is here. We are now learning to unlearn what we know and re-learn what is necessary to leave with this virus. I am unlearning and re-learning; now, it is my time to share a few things with you.

I have learnt tomorrow may never come. Not to be negative, but it is in black and white, things can change in a split of a second. Bearing this in mind, I am doing as much as I can today, ensuring that I can look back and smile at my achievements at the end of the day.

Love makes the world go round. I dare say: you love me now or do not love me at all. Do not wait until I am gone. Why wait until my burial day to buy me flowers? Why wait for the anniversary of my death to celebrate the life I had? No, this will not make sense to me then. I will not be there to look into your eyes and find the truth in your words. Nor will I be there to feel the butterflies in my stomach as you express your comments to me now.

Kindly do it now! Write me a poem and read it aloud. That song that makes you think of me every time it plays serenade me with it now. I deserve to go out on that date while I can still savor the food. Why make the same food for my visitors on my day of rest? The eulogy that you so passionately and emotionally read about me, keep it. If you cannot say those words to me now, then do not tell them to me then. Not to be ungrateful of your presence at my wake but give me my dues while I can still enjoy them; there is no second chance.

If you feel our relationship is strained, face me; let us work on it together, so we enjoy what we salvage. If we cannot work it out at any point, let us amicably part ways without bitterness or malice.

Death is the culmination of life; it will come at times unannounced or even gradual. Nevertheless, I ask you when I am gone, smile, and laugh. Reminisce on the good times we had and the memories we created while we still had the opportunity. Do not cry; instead, celebrate me knowing you, and I exhausted our time; expressed our love for each other and have no pending issues.

Are children obligated to take full responsibility of their parents

Phew! The complexity of this topic is like holding a butterfly with your hands placed on your back. If you ask someone if the butterfly is alive or dead and they say alive, you can squeeze it to death. If they say it is gone, you can release it and let it fly.

It is a parents’ responsibility to take care of their children in an ideal situation. However, the question arises, up to what age? Is letting the child grow and ushering them into adulthood considered cruelty? Let us learn from an eagle. When the eaglets come of age, they are pushed out of the nest. Not out of lack of love but to propel the young one to independence.

The core obligations of children are to respect and care for their aging parents. The divide as to how far is too far in supporting your parents depends on personal attachment, moral responsibility, and conscience. I am the type that would do whatever is necessary to see my parents comfortable by providing the bare minimum of food, shelter, and medical care. Once in a while, I will throw in a vacation. Bearing this in mind, they had their life plans before they had me. I consider myself part of the plan but not their ultimate goal of life. In this regard, some opportunities will arise where I keep off their business,’ and there are others where I will come in. I enjoy giving legal counsel, identifying the best doctors for them, helping them with their smartphones and computers, driving them on long drives, or facilitating them. Why do I do so? Because mine is to make their last days on earth comfortable and less stressful. We, the youngsters, must extend the same level of kindness we would want to be extended to our parents. Gone are the days when we squander our money with friends as our parents languish in lack and poverty at home. Selflessness does not have to be financial or material based. Let us show appreciation by spending time with them and create unforgettable memories.

On the other hand, parents need to be grateful, not for material things but because their children succeed and have a decent society position. I have witnessed parents who demand so much of their children to a point where they feel inadequate. Young women and men alike end up engaging in illicit sex, crime, and drug abuse to satisfy their parents’ demands to the detriment of their future. They live in bitterness as they hustle to ensure they maintain a societal standard that the parents expect to brag on their children’s successes. It is essential to realize there is no better gift a parent can give his children than positive exposure and paint a bright future. Some parents fail to fulfill their purpose in life and desperately try to live through their children’s lives. Forcing them to buy them the car or house they never had. Society needs to realize miserable parents can make unhappy children. As parents receive the respect, they deserve in the words of Abraham Lincoln, “All that I am and all that I will ever be, I owe to my mother.” Would your children say this about you as a parent?

We all suffer – No one is immune

Life is not a bed of roses. Despite how unique we all seem on earth, we share many things in common as far as age, gender, struggles, histories, and life experiences. The wealthy, middle class, and poor suffer. The wise and fool also suffer. Nobody is immune from suffering. Some religions testify that we are no different and that we are love. Somewhere down in our souls, we must know, we as a whole have a strong relationship with the incomparable source of love, the creator.

Trials might take different forms; the gathering of views and feelings of weakness, low self-esteem, lack of satisfaction, shame, and acceptance is inherently mutual. There are some area differences; cultural inconsistencies that set us apart. A negative approach compounds a challenging situation.

There is some level of agreement between nature’s purpose and that of individuals. As difficult as our life is on earth, we can remain alive or even flourish. To thrive, we need to adapt and be resourceful. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Think about the number of times nature’s purpose and that of humans clash, as demonstrated by all manner of nuisances, illnesses, and natural disasters. No one is immune. We all suffer.

Pain pops from various stages during our life. Suffering is the generalized trauma that engages us all uniquely. While some may appear to suffer more than others, much pain is comparative. It is not as if there are massive gaps of experience concerning suffering if we limit our view to a specific culture.

Pain and suffering are part of the human experience. However, our encounters with pain and suffering may be slightly different. Discomfort and suffering are holy, and these experiences are to be valued. The process we go through during pain and suffering can elevate individuals. No life is an ideal life, yet no life is horrible.

Your response determines the degree to which you suffer. Pain can be a door to inner awakening and enlightenment. Do not allow life challenges to deprive your most significant accomplishment. You are not alone!

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Master your mind, design your destiny – ‘YOU’

We are visual beings; everything starts with a single thought. We are all creators, so please master your mind and design your destiny. It is such an essential part of our body; we must do everything we can to keep it safe. It is irreplaceable, and we should treasure it. Our mind defines who we are and what we stand for; it controls every part of our body. I am genuinely grateful for my mind.

Here is a list of 6 things we can do daily to protect our mind

1. Trust God; there is nothing too big for him to handle. The bible should be our guide, a great book with a wealth of knowledge to help us in our every day lives. There is no need to stress on issues we have no control over. The bible is equipped with every thing we need to know.

2. Positive thinking, it is easy to get carried away with all the negative things that happen now. Sometimes we need to concentrate on the positive things and leave the negative ones. When we think positive, we feel better, and we accomplish more. Do not be swayed by News, social media, and other’s opinion of you. You are blessed with a mind, think positive, and enjoy every moment of the day.

3. Setting goals- If you fail to prepare, you prepare to fail. Daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly goals are necessary to set direction. Like a boat, set your sail and head towards your goal. Do not leave life to chance or circumstances. Plan and work towards achieving your goals.

4. Be grateful we have a lot to be thankful for daily. Gratitude is a must; when we are grateful for the little things, the blessings will continue to flow. The things we take for granted may mean so much to someone else. Things you should be grateful for life, family, for health, being able to use our senses, and the list goes on.

5. Diet plays a huge role in mental health, remember the saying you are what you eat. Nutrition plays a vital role in boosting our immune system; a healthy body is a healthy mind. Avoids food that will slow you down, there is a wide variety out there, choose wisely.

6. Exercise and Nature- Something simple like movement and sunshine can have a positive effect on our brains. Do not stay cooped up inside all day, go out there and enjoy the ambiance. Start your day with a bang; forget your worries. Everything should be balanced, exercise and the atmosphere contributes to a productive day and a good night’s rest. Sometimes we need to get out there and exhale, releasing the negating and take in all the positive.

Conclusion

The brain is a vital part of our body, and we should do everything in our power to keep it safe. The way we think, the food we eat, our faith exercise and sunshine can all determine what tomorrow brings. Be bold and protect your mind.

Take a bold step of faith, invest in yourself.

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