A little boy had picked from their kitchen garden a few cherries. He excitedly ran to his mother with so much joy and a banana smile across his innocent face. On seeing him, his mother was curious as to what would make her little boy that excited. Holding the boy on her lap, she realized that it was the cherries, but there was a problem; they were unripe, and based on her experience, the cherries were likely to be sour. She tried taking them away from the boy, but it was such a difficult task; even when she eventually succeeded, the boy burst into uncontrollable tears, not knowing that she had his best interest at heart. Mother rose and went into the kitchen where she got the little boy ripe and cherries that enjoyed eating forgetting, the agony, and the pain he previously went through on losing out on the cherries he had earlier picked.
In life, goodbyes are the hardest, yet at times, more essential in our lives. Most times, we tend to look at them from a negative perspective. As if we are losing something or someone. In most cases, if we have lost someone to death, we are sure that we will never see that person again, at least not on this earth. In relationship cases, it could be either way; we may lose someone, miss their friendship, and not be in their comfort zone for a while; however, on the other side, it could open the doors of opportunity. Opportunity to usher in new life, new growth, meet new people, accomplish stalled goals, and tick the to-do on your bucket list.
Like the mother to the little boy, we get so excited when we meet new friends who end up being part of our lives at a time in life relationships. We run to God, our father, and just like the little boy’s mother, He tries to caution us on some of the relationships we choose.
In Isaiah 46:10 (New International Version), “I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.” This, in itself, should be the main reason why we should always trust in God in all our relationships since He knows our end from the beginning. Further-more in Jeremiah 1:5 (NIV); “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you before you were born, I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” We assure that nothing is new to him, and his advice for us is always positive. Our future is in his hands because he knows us. When he directs, it is time for us to say goodbye to someone, a career, a job, or even to leave a place; we have to employ the Abrahamic type of faith; go without looking back and trusting no-one but God.
There are times when we may not get the closure of saying actual good goodbye, but it may come automatically by drifting apart or even silence. It signifies the end of a season and the ushering in of a new one. It also means that the mandate of that particular person in our life has come to an end. When God sends an angel to take you through a season, they move on to the next assignment once their purpose ends. The scripture says in Ecclesiastes 3:1- 8 (NIV), “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.”
One thing that gives me the courage to let go of things, opportunities, or people is that God opens another when one door closes. When God wants to move you from one glory to the next, you will have to shed the weight of your past level for Him to propel you to the next one. The more you hold on to your comfort zone, then you deny yourself the opportunity to soar to more significant, higher heights.
So when you feel that you will lose a friendship or are unsure of what will happen next, allow God to lead you; he is the shepherd and you the sheep. Remember, He says in the book of Joshua 1:9 (NIV), “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged; for the LORD, your God will be with you wherever you go.”
With this, I can confidently tell you; it is OK to LET IT GO!