It Is Okay To Let People Go, Why? Here is why…Letting go of the familiar can be extremely difficult. A little boy had picked from their kitchen garden a few cherries.
He excitedly ran to his mother with so much joy and a banana smile across his innocent face. On seeing him, his mother was curious as to what would make her little boy that excited. Holding the boy on her lap, she realized that it was the cherries, but there was a problem; they were unripe, and based on her experience, the cherries were likely to be sour.
She tried taking them away from the boy, but it was such a difficult task; even when she eventually succeeded, the boy burst into uncontrollable tears, not knowing that she had his best interest at heart.
Mother rose and went into the kitchen where she got the little boy ripe and cherries that enjoyed eating forgetting, the agony, and the pain he previously went through on losing out on the cherries he had earlier picked.
In life, goodbyes are the hardest, yet at times, more essential in our lives. Most times, we tend to look at them from a negative perspective. As if we are losing something or someone. In most cases, if we have lost someone to death, we are sure that we will never see that person again, at least not on this earth. In relationship cases, it could be either way; we may lose someone, miss their friendship, and not be in their comfort zone for a while; however, on the other side, it could open the doors of opportunity. Opportunity to usher in new life, new growth, meet new people, accomplish stalled goals, and tick the to-do on your bucket list.
Like the mother to the little boy, we get so excited when we meet new friends who end up being part of our lives at a time in life relationships. We run to God, our father, and just like the little boy’s mother, He tries to caution us on some of the relationships we choose.
In Isaiah 46:10 (New International Version), “I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.” This, in itself, should be the main reason why we should always trust in God in all our relationships since He knows our end from the beginning. Further-more in Jeremiah 1:5 (NIV); “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you before you were born, I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” We assure that nothing is new to him, and his advice for us is always positive. Our future is in his hands because he knows us. When he directs, it is time for us to say goodbye to someone, a career, a job, or even to leave a place; we have to employ the Abrahamic type of faith; go without looking back and trusting no-one but God.
There are times when we may not get the closure of saying actual good goodbye, but it may come automatically by drifting apart or even silence. It signifies the end of a season and the ushering in of a new one. It also means that the mandate of that particular person in our life has come to an end. When God sends an angel to take you through a season, they move on to the next assignment once their purpose ends. The scripture says in Ecclesiastes 3:1- 8 (NIV), “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.”
One thing that gives me the courage to let go of things, opportunities, or people is that God opens another when one door closes. When God wants to move you from one glory to the next, you will have to shed the weight of your past level for Him to propel you to the next one. The more you hold on to your comfort zone, then you deny yourself the opportunity to soar to more significant, higher heights.
So when you feel that you will lose a friendship or are unsure of what will happen next, allow God to lead you; he is the shepherd and you the sheep. Remember, He says in the book of Joshua 1:9 (NIV), “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged; for the LORD, your God will be with you wherever you go.”
With this, I can confidently tell you; it is OK to LET IT GO!
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Thank you for this site. It was good to read this article. I recently had to let go and accept I am not going to be able to see my daughter. I love her so much and would do anything for her. But I have to accept that I cant be there. I love the story about the cherries. Thank you for a wonderful site.
My pleasure, life is not about making the easy dissions but the right ones. Sometime we just have to let bygons be bygones
Thanks for the inspirational post! Because of the nature of this world where things happen unexpectedly, putting God first and trusting only in Him will help us through life’s journey. No doubt about it, He knows everything, knows our end right from the beginning, and controls the entire universe for His glory. Of course, we lose things or people in life, but the hope of seeing each other again remains intact only with Him (The Maker). We need to believe in Him that He can do all things and give us life again. Thanks.
Joyce
Well said Joyce, thank you for commenting.
Hi Diana,
I like the topic of the website in general, but also the topic chosen in this article. During our life, we are often put in the situation of letting go, of our own free will or not, certain people, things, aspects of life. Most of the time it is difficult because we develop a certain attachment for them.
Things do not always turn out the way we want, but as long as we have faith, Self-Confidence, and look at the positive side of things, we will always be open to new changes, and perceive them as something meant for us. I am not a religious person, but my faith in God, the relationship I have, only with him, gives me a strong confidence in myself, which makes me accept and adapt to any change, because I know that it is meant to bring me something better.
Thank you for sharing this article. You are doing a good job, which I hope you will continue.
Well said, thank you for commenting.
Very true that there are times when it is not only okay to let someone go, but it’s for the best interest of everyone involved. It is never easy to realize that a break must be made, but it is always worse to allow a negative influence to remain in your life. Thanks for the reminder that there are some things that are best left in the past.
Letting go is part of growth, thank you, Aly, for leaving a comment.
Wow, that is some post. It really does hit the subject. As someone who is begging God at the minute not to loose a partner it doesn’t quite fit in with what I want! But I cannot argue with the word of God. Moving on is not easy, absolutely not. But as much as I do not argue with anything you have to say, I also think that it’s not a case of okay, fine, what’s next! I truly believe that it is right to bring your wants and desires to God. He wants you to and expects you to. He therefore expects you to fight for what you want. However, he will give you what is best.
There is a children’s chorus that goes, sometimes God answers yes when I pray… Sometimes God answers no when I pray.. and the 3rd verse is sometimes God answers wait when I pray, but I know God always answers when I pray.
So bearing in mind what you say I will keep begging God to help us find away through, but if the answer remaims no, then I will have no choice.
Unfortunately this is not my first loss and I still carry the last one. I know you make it clear that I shouldn’t, but when you love someone intensely that love never died.
Thank you for this very good post. Keep up the good work.
Cherish the present moment, do all you can for your partner, God knows best, he is with you.
Change can be difficult, treasure the wonderful moments. We all cope with grief differently there is no right or wrong way. If God brings you to it , he has a reason. The journey is not always easy.
As a Christian who believes in God , I really loved this article and I also liked how you linked real life issues to the Bible scriptures . I enjoyed reading every bit of this article as it was very interesting and also relatable. It is indeed okay to let people go and let God guide you.Thank you so much for sharing this masterpiece
Thank you for reading this, and for your comments.