Ways to Turn Down Romantic or Sexual Advances

Are you new to the dating game? And are you someone who just ends up pleasing other people while putting your needs and preferences aside? If the answer is yes to both these questions, then you might find it difficult to say no to romantic or sexual advances. And no kidding, it is really difficult to say no to someone without hurting their feelings. What this might end up doing is make dating extremely difficult for you, and you might eventually lose interest altogether.

Sexual advances can seem confusing and awkward, especially if you don’t feel the same way as the other person does. So, learn to have a proper conversation with your partner when it comes to sex and understands what exactly you are comfortable with. That being said, in this article, we are going to talk about ways you can turn down romantic or sexual advances from the opposite sex in a respectful way.

Ways To Say No to Romantic Advances

1. Honesty Is the Best Policy

Whether you have gone on multiple dates or one dinner date, it’s important to be tactful when parting ways. And when parting ways, it’s important to be honest and truthful without being hurtful with your words or actions. So cut to the chase, and instead of prolonging the ordeal by sugarcoating, be honest and gentle about your true feelings and thoughts.

2. Learn to Be Mentally Prepared

Rejecting someone is never going to be fun and easy, so it’s necessary to prepare yourself mentally. Remember, chances of not receiving your approach, perspective, or words smoothly will be high. So be patient in case that happens and don’t argue about it. If need be, let the other person have the last words, and you let go of the situation and person completely.

3. Learn to Communicate Well

We live in a digital age where most communication happens via emails or texts. Even though communicating digitally is much easier, doing it in person shows that you genuinely respect the other person. It also allows the other person to understand your perspective better through your facial expressions and body language. It will help them realize that you are genuine and serious.

4. Avoid Giving False Hope

The biggest mistake you could be making while rejecting some romantic advances is giving false hope. Giving false hope not only makes you look like a player but also makes the other person’s healing process difficult. So instead, be upfront and have an open conversation. We understand how much you can hate being the bad guy in these situations but being kind to other people and letting them know where you stand is important.

5. Choose Your Sentences Carefully

No matter what your feelings are, try not to blame the other person for how the situation turned out to be. Pointing out the other person’s issues and faults will end up aggravating the situation and end up making it more hurtful. So, to ease the situation and avoid any further tension, try the “it’s not your fault, it’s just me” approach.

6. There’s No Right Time

Rejecting someone is a difficult and stressful thing. Although putting it off might seem like a great idea initially, it isn’t. As time passes, doing the right thing and letting the other person know about your feelings will get much more difficult. And that’s not all. With more time, the person will become more emotionally attached to you. So, in the end, taking time and putting off doing the right thing will hurt both of you.

 

Ways To Say No to Sexual Advances

It can seem like a tough and daunting task to say no to sex. And there might be several reasons for that, you are waiting for someone special, you are just not ready yet, or maybe you are just not in the mood for sex. Saying no to sex should be easy and okay. Below we have mentioned three ways you can say no to any sexual advances without feeling pressured or guilty.

. Learn how to Say No Politely

It is extremely important to be confident yet clear when saying no to the other person. The way you say it and what you say should depend on how well you know the person. For example, if you are interested in the person and want to have sex in the future, then you can let them know that you are not interested in sex until you know the person better. Similarly, if you are not interested in being sexually intimate with the person at all, let them know that by saying no clearly.

· Be Firm When Acknowledging the Person’s Request

Learn to acknowledge the person’s request while being polite and confident. So, if someone randomly invites you to their place, let them know that you do not think the invitation was appropriate. You can also ask them to leave the place in case you end up feeling uncomfortable. If you feel like the person’s comments are lewd and hinting towards sex, then be crisp and clear about it and let them know your intentions are completely different.

· Let Them Know You Appreciate Their Time and Effort and Say Goodbye

If you feel like being a little more polite, then say thank you for the time they decided to spend with you. Be sincere with your tone and let them know how much you enjoyed yourself. After you have said, this bids them goodbye and goodnight. Make sure you are respectful towards the other person, especially if they have been nothing but kind and respectful towards you. And in case you end up feeling too uncomfortable, get out of the place or find your friends.

It can turn out to be awkward when someone who you are not interested in is interested in you; what is worse, when they make unwanted romantic or sexual advances ignoring your hints of not being interested. We understand it is hard shaking off someone’s attention, especially if you are colleagues or know each other for a long time. But remember, in the end, it is better to say no and act from the very beginning than wait and make the situation uncomfortable.

10 Replies to “Ways to Turn Down Romantic or Sexual Advances”

  1. Hia Diana

    This was an interesting article. Many people are scared to hurt the other party due they do not want to lose them or experience a big conflict with them. All the steps you mentioned are spot on and the truth. Honesty is best recipe for everything. It all depends how you say it cause if you do it wrong, it will send a wrong message to the other party. 

  2. Thank you so much for such informative post!! I really enjoyed the post. Some of the points you have raised are very interesting. Communicate and sharing the feeling is very important. I will share your article with my hubby as its extremely informative and useful and I know lots of people who need to read it 🙂

  3. Diana, I found this article to be very informative! I like how you gave detailed steps on how to turn down unwanted romantic or sexual advances in an easy to read format.

    The way that you wrote this article gives dignity to both parties, the person offering the unwanted attention as well as the recipient of the unwanted attention. That is just excellent!

    Your advise against the “blame game” is also excellent because taking that approach would only anger the person giving the unwanted advances.

    You even go on to explain that being honest upfront is the best policy and to not give false hope so that no misunderstandings occur. You mention that if desired, the recipient of the unwanted attention can even thank the person offering the unwanted attention for their time, thereby dignifying that person.

    I found the article to be well thought out, well organized and well written! Great job Diana!

  4. This is an important topic and a very difficult one to deal with. Thank you to your useful post. Being able to come out of these situations in a polite way is not always easy. But I understand that if we are mentally prepared to set our boundaries, then we will not have such a difficult time when we have to actually set them.

  5. Well i have to say that this has been an interesting read and it would have probably have bbeen more interesting to me if i wasnt at that stage in my life at this moment in time where i am absolutely well content with my own company. Cant be doing with relationships at all. Especially when its all vanity

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