Who Do You Blame If Things Go Wrong? Does the Blame Game Work?
Life is not a bed of roses – it is all about ups and downs. Things may often go wrong in spite of putting in your best effort. When problems arise, different people react differently. Wise people stay calm and try to find the solution to the problems. On the other hand, some people complain about the situation and blame others for everything.
The blame game is about holding someone responsible for what goes wrong. Blaming someone is easier than dealing with the issue. That’s why blaming is the only way to cope with difficult situations for some people.
ho Is to Blame When Things Go Wrong?
Suppose you start working on a project along with your team. Everyone put their best efforts to complete the project successfully. But unfortunately, you all fail despite your best intentions. In such cases, who should you blame for everything – who should you hold responsible for it? It’s really a difficult question to answer. Because you know very well – everyone has put their best effort to ensure successful project completion.
Before you blame someone for the failure or hold him or her responsible for everything, you really need to understand whether the blaming game is helpful for the work culture. Frankly speaking, it’s not at all helpful. Rather, the blame game can be toxic. It can demotivate people and affect your work. You cannot communicate properly when you constantly blame others for failure. Also, it can be difficult to fix the real problem when the blame game goes on. Rather, try to figure out the root cause behind failure, analyze everything and take the necessary steps.
Why Do People Blame Others – Reasons You Should Know
So, why do some people love the blame game? Here are some reasons to know:
· It Is an Easy Way
Blaming someone means you don’t have to take responsibility for fixing the existing problems. When you blame someone for the failure, that person is supposed to confront the issues (not you). So, blaming is apparently an easier way than fixing a problem. However, the results can be destructive. Also, you should remember, blaming is toxic.
· It Feeds Your Control Freak Mind
Blaming someone means holding someone responsible for the failure. When you do it, you take the authority to put the blame on others. Thus, you can have control over someone else. On the other hand, when you take responsibility for the entire situation, it means you hold yourself responsible for all the bad decisions you made. This may make you feel like you lost control somehow, and that’s why you failed. Thus, the blame game seems to be an easier way to cope up with the entire situation for those who are control freaks. Also, it feeds their control freak minds.
· It Means You Don’t Need to Be Vulnerable
When you hold yourself responsible for anything wrong, it makes you feel vulnerable. When you become vulnerable, you have to face yourself and evaluate yourself. You need to take full responsibility for all the wrong decisions you made. For some people, it is extremely hard to deal with this situation. They find it hard to undergo the vulnerable process.
On the other hand, blaming others is an easy way to avoid the vulnerable process. Now, some people choose this easy process over self-evaluation. This may stunt their emotional and professional growth. Because introspection and evaluation always bring growth opportunities. When you blame someone without taking responsibility for the failure, you don’t give yourself scopes for introspection. And lack of introspection and evaluation means a lack of growth.
Want to Stop the Blame Game – How to Do It?
Blaming others is not the right way to fix a problem. Rather, it may make the situation more complicated. To stop the blame game, you may do the following things:
- Recognize the root cause and discuss it
- Try to practice gratitude and encourage others
- Let people know about your expectations
- Learn to take responsibilities for the mistakes you made
- Evaluate yourself and analyze the situations
Blaming others seems to be easier than dealing with certain problems. But it cannot be the right solution to any problems. Even if someone makes any mistake, try to motivate him or her. Motivation and support are two powerful tools for better productivity. So, stay calm and try to find out the right solutions when things go wrong.
Hey! I want to start off by saying that I love your background and the website setup is really nice and simple! Easy to navigate. This is a great niche idea, and honestly, I have met people in my life who fit in this category, it’s not always pleasant to be blamed when you’re not at fault. But it’s also important to take responsibility when things go wrong, and I feel that this is a very important lesson when you start working in order to ensure a pleasant and non-toxic work environment. It was a very interesting read, thank you for sharing!
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This has been a good read. I agree that the easy route is not always the best. And to have success in any area, we need to assume responsibility for our decisions. Besides, if we always have somebody else to blame, we will never go through the mental exercise of analyzing what failed and how we can do it better next time!
Well said, thank you
I love the title of your article. Who do I blame when things go wrong? Everyone but myself. It’s so hard to take responsibility for my own actions. But in the end, if I don’t take responsibility for myself, I will always be a victim. Blaming at work doesn’t work. I find that when I blame my boss, I get defensive. That’s never a good outcome. I feel better when I take responsibility. I love your suggestion of practicing gratitude.
Gratitude keeps us focused, we tend to take a lot for granted
This is a very interesting and helpful article. Sounds like something I would write. With that it’s very interesting how many people blame others instead of taking responsibility themselves. It does nothing to blame others. In honesty it just hurts themselves then do any good. If one just took responsibility then blame then they would learn . In the long run it’s about self acceptance.
Well said.
Thank you for your comment.